How to make first (& Subsequent) impression

Right first impression is necessary but if not it’s not end of the world. If that be the case word improvement will have to be deleted from English dictionary. In this guidebook I will talk about first & second etc of impressions.

“ Research shows most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you. They then spend the rest of the conversation internally justifying their initial reaction. This may sound terrifying, but by knowing this you can take advantage of it to make huge gains in your likeability. First impressions are tied intimately to positive body language… “ Forbes Magazine, 13 Traits of exceptionally likable people.

“Expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.” Dale Carnegie

He says most fundamental key to first (to last) impression is simple SMILE. Read More....

How to learn foreign languages, well ASAP

In his book, Eve Spoke, evolutionist Philip Lieberman admitted:

‘Speech is so essential to our concept of intelligence that its possession is virtually equated with being human.  Animals who talk are human, because what sets us apart from other animals is the “gift” of speech’. Read more at my new blog...

Mastery worth Pursuing....

When Joseph Pine & James Gilmore wrote 'Work is a theater & business a stage , what they meant was like theater artists completely immersed in their performance on stage , entire enterprise (irrespective of their business)  has to immersed in creating better customer experience on these three criteria : need , ease and delight.  

Magic lies in immersion. Magic always holds people's attention and magical performance becomes talk of the town. What magical performance does in times of social media is common sense by now. 

Someone may wish to see what immersion and magic means , for them this Ted Performance will be useful. If this 'yo yo' to can be a subject of mastery I think anything in the world is worth mastering and has potential to hold people's attention.  

As far as business is concerned goal of mastering magical customer experience creation is worth pursuing.  

Reading list.... 2015 - 2016 ... Quarter One...

Since last few days I have come across some great books and site so here are they:

The work of Art & You are a writer by Jeff Goins (To be purchased,  waiting list)

The war at Art by Steven Pressfield  (Read)

The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor (Reading)

Thinking fast & Slow by Daniel Kahneman (Purchased , reading wait list)

Believe me these are life changing books....

Aanekant ...... Lord Mahavir's Message & Solution for many world problems...

Aanekant , (title of this blog is also based on this principle) is one of the finest messages of Lord Mahavir. 

Aanekant means the principles of pluralism and multiplicity of viewpoints, the notion that truth and reality are perceived differently from diverse points of view, and that no single point of view is the complete truth. 

Today "I" am right and therefore others are wrong , others are my opponent and in some extreme thinking others should be eliminated has taken over the world thinking.

All view points are conditioned and /or partial. There can not be absolute right or wrong. Terrorist killing people are right from their own stand point but if they change their point of view they may give up violence. Changing point of view can change behaviors & therefore nothing is absolute right or wrong.

Two people killing an animal : One with an intention of killing and eating and one by mistake. 

Technically both have killed so same rule applies to both is absolutism: However intent killer would attract more intense Karmas while accidental killer would attract lighter Karmas. Even our courts view this differently.     

If we understand and believe in the principle of Aanekant our own behavior will become moderate. We will be more open in accepting other's point of view not necessarily by giving up our point of view. We will become more accommodative which will reduce our hatred towards others. 

When world peace is seriously at stake this principle of Aanekant propagated by Lord Mahavir can offer the solution we all are seeking desperately. 

May his teaching bless our lives on the occasion of Mahavir Janmakalyanak (Birthday of Lord Mahavir).

Happy Morning.....not Good Morning

Happy Morning......

One of the Gym members where I go regularly wishes everyone Happy Morning and not Good Morning. His logic - do we wish on birthday as Happy Birthday or Good Birthday ?

Sounds interesting. 

Today during interaction he said ," By coming to Gym daily not only our body remains healthy but mind also becomes healthy. " We all know that. 

Doing something good in the morning motivates us and keep us in good mood through out the day.  Good mood impacts our other work,  this is a chain reaction.    

We are not happy because of our external success but reverse is true, we are happy and that impacts our external performance and success.

Referring to one of the personal trainers my Happy Gym friend said," He is full happy not a 1% is waste."

Are we fully and always HAPPY? or is there a waste? 

Remove unhappiness waste from your mental system and become 100% happy as that impacts our performance and therefore chance of success. Don't wait for your happiness till you become successful or till you get what you want. Become happy is a prerequisite of success. 

Have a Happy day. 

Inviting memorable customer experience stories

My first draft manuscript of book on Customer Experience is at editing stage, I need examples of great customer experience stories to be incorporated in the book. Inviting stories.....Well free ebook for all whose stories will be selected for the book...Look forward to amazing stories.

End of Volunteerism ....

Volunteering ends when desire for credit and thanks exceeds desire to do selfless work. 

Yes many people whom we assume to be doing social work , selfless work are suffering from deep desire to get recognition, deep desire to get credit of their work in public,  deep desire to get some direct & indirect benefit out of it. 

Mostly these are the people who talk about principles and ethics every now and then. They demonstrate by their words how mush they care about the institution they are working for. Ethics, truth, straight talks , I swear are some of the words of their vocabulary to camouflage their deep desire.

Just remove them from their post and see how their opinion & vocabulary changes. All institutions are stuffed with this kind of people. Society is more in danger from these people as others are known dangers but these people are unknown & hidden dangerous insiders. 

Volunteering means selfless work, desire for credit and public recognition ends selflessness and it becomes Give and Take business as usual. 

What the hell !!!.... Ok Fine...

My just completed teenage daughter utters two phrases frequently. Language of teenagers are different and shapes the future of the language.

Coming to these phrases, there is a great learning from these.

In life we are always concerned with one or many things. When any such incidence we encounter personally first utterance is : What the hell !!!

However we are taught by Stephen Covey that there are two area in our life: Circle of Concerns and Circle of Influence. Expanding circle of influence will contracts our circle of concerns. 

When we are in our area of concern , what the hell situation will be frequent.  We have two options then:

1) Expand the area of influence to address the concern
2) Accept the reality that you cant do anything about the situation

In both the scenario our response after what the hell should be - Ok Fine;

1) Ok Fine , let me do something about it 
2) Ok Fine, let me accept that I have to live with it

Lesson is do not remain in what the hell situations and quickly go into Ok Fine mode with any of the two options above.

My daughter when she understands why of what the hell situation usually says OK Fine with 2nd option & occasionally pursues 1st option.

These two phrases are very important & going hand in hand in real life situations.

Whenever we are in what the hell state of mind immediately go into Ok Fine mode to remain calm or become action oriented as the case may be.

Lessons in life comes from anywhere and everywhere. 

NAMO - QUICK Wins please (Humbly)

There is a concept called QUICK Wins. 

There is a concept called Economic Education  

When you are working on a larger good , to keep your supporters and believers glued to you , you have to offer some quick immediate visible benefit / difference. Since larger project takes long time this is very critical to keep the supporters glued to you.  

PM is in economic overhaul mode, visiting various countries which will boost our economy  , making Government work harder etc etc. but for people its useless unless they see some quick benefit and life changing experience.  On the contrary foreign trips and pictures work other way like PM is wasting resources in foreign tours and doesn't care about the people who voted him. Series of QUICK wins initiatives is a MUST. (This is also known as low hanging fruits.)

Secondly we want to get away from freebies culture so voters must know the impact of freebies. Economic education should be the part of Govt's economic agenda.  Working to improve economy without educating people HOW it works is again like a silent Govt. ( You may be speaking all other useless things, that is not a talkative leader unless it offers some insight.)   Communication is critical to get votes, communication is critical to expand voters base, communication is critical to make people know what you are doing , how you are doing and  how will you achieve the goal. 

Govt MUST initiate economic education programme like Swachh Bharat Abhiyaan. 

We need Ministry of Citizen Communication (I & B is anyway useless) educating citizen about important issues without spending on photos of political masters. (People know the PM , they want to know how he is working to change their lives for the better.) 

(PS: None of the above works and helps against Arrogance. First prerequisite for a public leader is Humbleness. Saying I am humble means nothing unless you are seen so. Entire present political class is suffering from this. Warren Buffet has recently quoted," ABC of failure for companies - Arrogance, Bureaucracy & Complacent , it is also applicable to all types of organisations.)